Being in a long term relationship blocked a lot of the nonsense single people have to deal with. I've always had guys approach me but with the protection of being in a relationship/engaged, I didn't have the extra stuff to deal with. Now that I'm newly single I try to keep an open mind and go with the flow but this flow is more like a typhoon.
When I was a preteen/teenager, I was an ugly duckling. None of the boys wanted more than a friendship from me. I saw how they chased the "pretty" girls and oddly enough the girls would use me as their shield (yeah I know... cruel). I hated that no boy found me to be cute so I prayed to God that He would make me pretty enough to be chased. Talk about being careful about what you ask for....
I know that some attention is better than no attention but my goodness. The first thing I was blessed with were wide hips and a big behind. My "seductive" eyes and "sexy" smile followed rather quickly. It took a few years but my breast were the last to get to the point of drawing attention. I know that when guys approach a female, 9 times out of 10 it's not because of her personality. Having a great personality is an added bonus but the men who approach me make it clear that all they want is to have sex with me. I have looked long and hard and don't see what it is about me that makes them think that I'm just a "good time" woman.
I had a telephone conversation (I didn't give this guy my number and I blocked my number... thank God) with this guy and right away he tells me that he's not looking for a committed relationship. He has this "circle" of girls he deals with and when one act like she's trying to get him to commit, he drops her and add another in his rotation. As he continues to speak, I block out what he's saying and began asking myself is this guy for real? Does he think I want to be apart of this "stable" of chicks he allegedly has? Of course I informed him when it was my turn to participate in the conversation that I'm enjoying my single life and not looking to get into another relationship. He got happy and said that it sounds like we would be the right pick for one another to which I responded no. I told him that sex was not at the top of my priority list and I'm much deeper than that. For whatever reason I offended him and he decided that he would do his best to disrespect me. I didn't get down to his level and I let him have his little fit because I found it funny. How is it he was so sure or wrapped up in the idea of having sex with me that when it was denied he got so angry?
Another guy approached me twice about asking me out and to see if I were married or single. The first time I told him that I was engaged (and I was but shortly after I became disengaged... I like to call it that) and he told me that he had to let me know how attractive I was. It was about a few months later when he approached me again telling me how beautiful I was and he had to know if I was single. I got the idea that he didn't remember stepping to me the first time so I played along. I know I give men a hard time so I decided to throw the guy a bone. Little did I know he would toss me one back. He and I talked via telephone calls for a while. The conversation was great and he wanted to take me out so he could look me in my eyes (yes, I was supposed to fall for that). I ended up running into him while I was out and about shopping. The conversation was short because he was working and I had business I needed to take care of. Later that evening, I received a phone call and he told me how beautiful and sexy I look. It was a must that we spend some time together. THEN he told me about a dream he had about me which was a graphic sexual dream and began describing to me how I made him feel when he saw me. As if that wasn't enough, he used his cell phone to take a picture of his semi boner (told you he tossed me a bone) sent it to me, and called back to find out what my opinion was. I explained to him about me being a lady and deserved to be treated as such and from that moment on, I haven't heard much from him. I could have been honest and told him that instead of sending it to me he should have had his doctor take a look at it because from what I saw, that thing didn't look normal but I took the high road.
I remember hearing that a woman has to kiss a lot of frogs before finding her prince but who needs that? I'm not trying to get warts of any kind (okay?!) and it's just not that serious to me. I'm not looking to be in a relationship right now but I'm at the point where I don't mind hanging out. I've never been one to just put out because someone was attracted to me. I'm not going to choose now to start handing it out to every guy who wants it. I sometimes wish I was a little more shallow but I'm not. If a guy wants to get my attention, sex is not the way. If we have established a decent connection and it happens to come up, then I can talk about it till the cows come home.
When I was a preteen/teenager, I was an ugly duckling. None of the boys wanted more than a friendship from me. I saw how they chased the "pretty" girls and oddly enough the girls would use me as their shield (yeah I know... cruel). I hated that no boy found me to be cute so I prayed to God that He would make me pretty enough to be chased. Talk about being careful about what you ask for....
I know that some attention is better than no attention but my goodness. The first thing I was blessed with were wide hips and a big behind. My "seductive" eyes and "sexy" smile followed rather quickly. It took a few years but my breast were the last to get to the point of drawing attention. I know that when guys approach a female, 9 times out of 10 it's not because of her personality. Having a great personality is an added bonus but the men who approach me make it clear that all they want is to have sex with me. I have looked long and hard and don't see what it is about me that makes them think that I'm just a "good time" woman.
I had a telephone conversation (I didn't give this guy my number and I blocked my number... thank God) with this guy and right away he tells me that he's not looking for a committed relationship. He has this "circle" of girls he deals with and when one act like she's trying to get him to commit, he drops her and add another in his rotation. As he continues to speak, I block out what he's saying and began asking myself is this guy for real? Does he think I want to be apart of this "stable" of chicks he allegedly has? Of course I informed him when it was my turn to participate in the conversation that I'm enjoying my single life and not looking to get into another relationship. He got happy and said that it sounds like we would be the right pick for one another to which I responded no. I told him that sex was not at the top of my priority list and I'm much deeper than that. For whatever reason I offended him and he decided that he would do his best to disrespect me. I didn't get down to his level and I let him have his little fit because I found it funny. How is it he was so sure or wrapped up in the idea of having sex with me that when it was denied he got so angry?
Another guy approached me twice about asking me out and to see if I were married or single. The first time I told him that I was engaged (and I was but shortly after I became disengaged... I like to call it that) and he told me that he had to let me know how attractive I was. It was about a few months later when he approached me again telling me how beautiful I was and he had to know if I was single. I got the idea that he didn't remember stepping to me the first time so I played along. I know I give men a hard time so I decided to throw the guy a bone. Little did I know he would toss me one back. He and I talked via telephone calls for a while. The conversation was great and he wanted to take me out so he could look me in my eyes (yes, I was supposed to fall for that). I ended up running into him while I was out and about shopping. The conversation was short because he was working and I had business I needed to take care of. Later that evening, I received a phone call and he told me how beautiful and sexy I look. It was a must that we spend some time together. THEN he told me about a dream he had about me which was a graphic sexual dream and began describing to me how I made him feel when he saw me. As if that wasn't enough, he used his cell phone to take a picture of his semi boner (told you he tossed me a bone) sent it to me, and called back to find out what my opinion was. I explained to him about me being a lady and deserved to be treated as such and from that moment on, I haven't heard much from him. I could have been honest and told him that instead of sending it to me he should have had his doctor take a look at it because from what I saw, that thing didn't look normal but I took the high road.
I remember hearing that a woman has to kiss a lot of frogs before finding her prince but who needs that? I'm not trying to get warts of any kind (okay?!) and it's just not that serious to me. I'm not looking to be in a relationship right now but I'm at the point where I don't mind hanging out. I've never been one to just put out because someone was attracted to me. I'm not going to choose now to start handing it out to every guy who wants it. I sometimes wish I was a little more shallow but I'm not. If a guy wants to get my attention, sex is not the way. If we have established a decent connection and it happens to come up, then I can talk about it till the cows come home.
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